I know we haven’t spoken for a number of years. I know I hung up on you and shifted all blame.
But I can see that you have found peace, that you embraced a new life and found joy in a new career. It comforts me to know that I helped to sow a seed for another human being and that this seed has flourished and produced a garden of wonder for so many.
Have you ever observed how, when a colleague or loved one unexpectedly spews out noxious remarks, you can be instantly flooded with emotions that cause you to instinctively respond, either with an equally poisonous rebuttal or to wilt in defeat and mumble a few nonsensical slurs?
But what if you knew that you are not at the behest of the sensations that rise up within you, but that they are a result of ideas that you hold dear at this moment in time?
What does it all mean? What is the meaning of life? These are the great pseudo questions of religion and philosophy, and I suspect that you have asked them as well.
We’ve been told that in the absence of a meaningful answer, there is a great void in our lives that must be filled with something: An idea, a myth or a person. But what if this was an imaginary problem? What if it is an illusion or story we’ve told ourselves for millennia?
I have observed that people who seem to be in a state of perpetual equanimity, are more often than not, those who embrace endings. This could be the ending of a relationship, a friendship, or an idea that was once held dear. These folk seem to identify the imminence of endings in the same way that we identify the impending signs of the change of seasons…
She introduced herself as Lee Kat. Agné sat down next to her and shared with her one of the cigarettes her character used in the shoot. Two beautiful human beings from opposite ends of the economic spectrum acknowledged one another’s existence in conversation and silence.
Today, only remnants remain of Graaff's Pool. Built in 1910 so that the wealthy Graaff's family could "walk down, in silks, from their palatial villa to bath in the ocean without having to interact with common members of society." As the ownership changed hands it was opened to the public and soon became a place of respite for those excluded in a social landscape of prejudices. Until one day when undercover policemen arrested 20 men…
It's inevitable: We compare ourselves to others. We are incessantly bombarded with examples of materialism and Western notions of what it means to be successful. But the seasons of life have little regard for the dreams, desires and goals of mere mortals like us. As I work to build a more meaningful life, I am often reminded, not to venture far from the wisdom once uttered by late journalist, Hunter S. Thompson...
UPDATE: Arianna Huffington read this piece and asked for it to be published on Thrive Global. Published, Nov 2017 as ’A Letter to Christian Parents’. Click to open. ---
The Chinese have an insightful word for the concept of 'nature'. It is pronounced, 'Ziran,' and means 'of itself', 'naturally' or 'spontaneously.' Think about it, a tree does not grow as tall as it possibly can, because someone or something told it to. Instead, this is all it knows. It's desire to reach its full potential flows naturally and spontaneously from within.
A mentor of mine once shared, that sure, it is a good thing when you learn to tolerate those with other world views, but it is an even greater thing when you learn, not only to tolerate, but to embrace.
To 'embrace'... it is such a liberating force. All expressions of true love spring forth from it. All success is preceded by it. It is like a fountain
A whole new world has opened for me. The religious teachers in my formative years have told me not to touch, and not to handle... that it will lead me off the straight and narrow. Now, some years later, I can see exactly why. Because it did indeed lead me off the path they have wanted for me...
Summer in Cape Town is upon us! Which reminded me of a friends-and-family-outing December last year. We all went cherry picking at Klondyke Cherry Farm in Ceres about an hour and a half from Cape Town.
Babylonstoren near Paarl is most certainly one of my favorite places to visit in the Western Cape. Koos Bekker, CEO of the multinational media group Naspers Ltd bought the 590 acres in South Africa’s Drakenstein Valley and along with Karen Roos, editor of South Africa’s Elle Decoration, transformed it into South Africa's Versailles.
A few of my close friends moved out to London a couple of years ago. Having just one day in London gives us just enough time to rekindle the old fires of true friendship. Both of them, Bernard and Theo now have beautiful boys and since Theo had to babysit at the same time, my lens was instantly drawn toward Hudson's fiery red hair and his eternally calm expression...
After our scooter trip, we made our way to the Queen's Staircase, commonly referred to as the 66 steps. It is a major landmark that is located in the Fort Fincastle Historic Complex in Nassau. It was hewn out of solid limestone rock by slaves between 1793 and 1794 and it is said that it provided a direct route from Fort Fincastle to Nassau City...
As we travelled west around the Island of New Providence, Bahamas, we were mesmerized by the turquoise ocean all around. We travelled past Love Beach, then swam at Jaw's Beach and came to the Clifton Heritage Park to enter through the stone steps and pause at the Sacred Space.